Why Are We Given More Than We Can Handle? (And How To Get Through It!)

You know those weeks when you just feel like you’ve been dealt a shitty hand? Those days when you keep thinking okay, “enough is enough.” You have to ask yourself, “why me?” Over and over again, while you grab the next carton of Oreo ice cream and press “Yes I Am Still Watching on Netflix once again.” When you feel like you’ve fallen into the black hole of emotion and you cannot pull yourself out?

Confession: we’ve all been there.

You are not alone. Life happens, like a lot, and we feel like we cannot pull ourselves out of it.

So why does this happen to us? Why does life deal us these crappy hands and give us all of this STUFF we can’t handle?!

FACT: You are never given more than you can handle.

You have just allowed yourself to believe that it is more than you can handle.

We feed ourselves these stories and beliefs about what it is exactly we can handle. And we get super cozy with those beliefs. We tell ourselves we can handle 30 doses of trauma in one month and that’s it… no more universe! We allow ourselves to spiral into the black hole of no return of negative emotion. But why?! Negative emotion takes just as much energy as a positive emotion. But it’s easier for us to buy into the story. Because it’s comfortable, it’s safe, it’s what we are used to.

We are human and we like to suffer.

It’s true. It’s easy for us, it keeps us nice and safe and guarded. Of course, no one would openly admit that they enjoy suffering. It’s just there, it became a part of us some time. When we suffer in our own pain or our state of fear, there are many payouts. We don’t have to face heavy emotions head on, we don’t have to try to come up with a solution, we won’t feel selfish for being happy when others are down, we don’t have to forgive or apologize. There are so many payouts for wallowing in our suffering. And then, at the end of the day, we wonder why we are so sad and why we have been handed too much.

Pain – is going to come. It is a part of life, we all go through it. Some much worse than others. Pain will come and go. But the thing is – we always have a choice.

Once you landed on your dream business plan did the unknown feel a bit scary? Did you find yourself asking a lot of what if’s or looking into the future a lot more than you should have?

Yes yes and yes! I was 100% terrified. In fact, I actually procrastinated launching my website for about 2 months because I was so scared of the unknown. I was totally “future tripping” where I was playing out all these scenarios in my mind, none of which actually came true, about people not being receptive, what was my family going to think, are people going to look at me differently, will I actually be able to make money, am I really qualified to do all of this. It’s perfectly normal for all of these feelings to come up, so I worked to clear these thoughts from my mind, closed my eyes, hit the “publish” button on my website – and now looking back I can’t believe I was so afraid! We always make things so much worse in our minds then they ever really are.

Did you run into any road bumps along the way or have to encounter any particular fears that you would like to share?

We will always hit road bumps, but that’s just part of life. We learn from them, take the lesson we’re supposed to take, and move on a wiser and more enlightened being!

When you did hit road blocks, face challenges or have failures, what was the worst that happened? What did it take to keep you going?

We are always hardest on ourselves, and criticize ourselves more than anyone else would. Failing is really hard for me. When I was little, if I failed or wasn’t perfect at something, I just thought it wasn’t meant to be and I was afraid to try again. It’s taken me a lot of work and learning to understand that failing (or not being perfect) at something isn’t the end of the world, and it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be doing what you’re doing, it just means you need to do something different – and try again. Consistent, baby steps are what kept me going, and when I was feeling overwhelmed, I spent time in meditation, reconnected with my heart and soul, and remembered why I’m doing this – I remembered why I’m here.

What is one big, amazing piece of advice you would give to our readers about stepping outside of their comfort zone and really going for the lifestyle that they have always dreamed of?

Always remember you deserve to live your dreams AND you absolutely have what it takes to do anything and everything you want to do in this life. The only thing that will hold you back, is yourself. Whenever you get stuck, remember this: you can either remain where it’s comfortable, the path you’ve been traveling down, and your life will stay the same. Your dreams will probably remain dreams. Or you can choose to jump – take the leap – and choose the road less traveled. If you want something to happen, if you want to change the direction of your life, you’re going to have to do something different. Make a new choice and act on it. Pursue your new outcome, pursue your dream.

WOW! You guys, we all start somewhere and finding your way through your own journey is exciting and scary at the same time. And you always have the choice… remain where you are safe and comfortable or take the leap!

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